I do not want to make a blowjob: how to step over myself?.
According to statistics, 91% of couples have oral sex. Most often, the initiators of such experiments in bed are men.
But what if you want to fulfill the request of the partner, but to force yourself to oral caresses does not work?
Why don’t you want to make a blowjob
The first thing to think about – The reasons for such a negative attitude to oral sex. Most often, the problem lies in the psychological perception of such caresses. Knowing the enemy in person, you can successfully fight him.
We are looking for the reason for the unwillingness to do a blowjob to the partner:
- Stereotypical thinking – It is especially difficult to cross the girls of strict education through themselves, as they are confident in the unnaturalness of oral affection, their «dirt», immorality, harmfulness to health;
- Negative experience of acquaintances – girlfriend at the next bachelorette party «in secret to the whole light» She said that she tried and did not receive any pleasure from this (probably just lied), now she would not advise others;
- Unwillingness to obey – Many women consider blowjob a manifestation of violence, humiliation;
- Unfortunate first experience – Sexual losses are remembered for life and can result in serious complexes: if it is not possible to make a blowjob the first time, the second attempt may not be;
- Disgust – Psychologically, everything seems to be normal, but when it comes to action, touching male dignity with lips, and even more so to work on it, it seems simply unrealistic;
- The sensitivity of the larynx – In each person, it is different, a strong vomiting reflex, alas, can seriously prevent the partner with a blowjob;
- Unwillingness to swallow sperm – One of the most common fears of women, which, incidentally, is not always justified (not every man insists on this).
In addition, often women are corny repelled by a male smell or the appearance of the genitals – Excess vegetation, for example. All of the above problems are solved.
How to decide on a blowjob
Depending on the set «diagnosis» We are looking for a panacea. Experienced lovers give the following tips:
+ Use the power of imagination – if it is so unpleasant to spend «Operations» With the male genital organ, you can close your eyes and imagine in its place any gastronomic joy, for example, ice cream, a banana or a lollipop;
+ Add taste – If the imagination did not work, you can bring to an intimate element of novelty, grease the partner’s dignity with melted (but not hot, of course) chocolate, whipped cream, ice cream or even jam;
+ Visit an intimate store – and buy flavored condoms or edible grease, with them oral sex will be much more pleasant;
+ Take a bath together and make each other a massage – Doubts about the cleanliness of the partner will disappear, and such procedures will help to relax much faster, tune in to romance;
+ Practice – As in modern youth comedies, in a banana or candy, you can find out your threshold of sensitivity, and to adopt to the actions itself;
+ Consolidate the theory in practice – During traditional sex, you can sink to its genitals, massage them, touch them with lips. If the first acquaintance with the new view of the weights has passed successfully, next time it is worth continuing. The patience of the partner will finally be rewarded.
+ Study the technique of blowing a blowjob – there are more than enough of them, it is not necessary to immediately start with «deep throat», You can master «purple haze» Or a game «Cold and hot». There are many guidelines and even video instructions on the Internet that will help to navigate in a new topic and choose the most harmless option;
+ Take care of yourself – To drown doubts about the blowjob will help your own pleasant sensations, for example, mutual affection in pose 69 or self -satisfaction with the help of a vibrator.
The issue of personal hygiene, taste preferences and technology is resolved. The point remains small – tune in to the desired wave and try.
Remember that the understanding partner will never rush with oral affection.
And if after several attempts it was not possible to overpower yourself, it is better to look for alternative ways to satisfy a partner. Surely, besides one erotic fantasy, he has another, no less exciting.