The guy is watching porn. What to do? Why do men watch porn?.
Life story
They live together not very long ago. Both – young, beautiful, relaxed. Everything is fine in bed. There is no taboo, both go to experiments, are not afraid of extreme. Deep night. She gets up and goes to the kitchen. Even in the corridor he hears suspicious moans and characteristic sounds. Oh God! Her beloved is watching «Porn». The laptop stands on the table, and he was so carried away that he does not notice anything around….
Then there were tears, hysteria. Explanations, screams. She – sobs, but he cannot understand anything. What he was guilty of?.. She also does not understand: we are well together, we even have our homemade porn video, my beloved shoots her on the phone, proud of her immensely. Why do men watch porn?
Women’s forums on the Internet are full of similar stories. The problem exists. Let’s try to figure it out.
What is the reason for this reaction of many women?
The thing is that psychologically a woman and a man are very different. The man looks «porn» and for him this does not mean absolutely nothing. I looked, closed the laptop and forgot about it. And he does not see a connection between the viewing of an outright video and his sexual relations with a particular woman. A woman considers such behavior a man as treason. Real, real. And often suffers very much. Even the most intelligent and educated woman cannot often perceive such a situation adequately.
What to do if a partner is watching porn?
If a woman is smart, wise, then she will try to cope with feelings. Monitor, convict and arrange tantrums – This is the way to destroying relationships.
Why is a man watching porn
Watching porn is the easiest and most affordable way to relieve stress – And this is the most common reason for a man’s enthusiasm for porno-clips.
- Man – The creature is polygamous, that is, to live all her life with the same woman is almost impossible for him;
- In a man, nature has a need to look at other women. Evaluate them, admire, see with their eyes;
- Modern morality holds a man’s behavior in a certain framework. A normal man will not run after the woman he likes on the street and will not tear off her clothes.
- The implementation of the need laid down by nature occurs while viewing erotic scenes. It has nothing to do with treason, a man never mixes his relationship with a partner and sex on the screen.
In what cases it is necessary to sound the alarm, contact psychologists, sexologists?
- When viewing «porn» completely displaces real sexual relations;
- When viewing «porn» lasts many hours every day;
- When brutal scenes of violence are regularly visible, where blood is pouring;
- When there is a regular viewing scenes of pedophilia, necrophilia, zoophilia.
A qualified specialist must also contact in cases where the partner regularly engages in self -satisfaction, masturbating under viewing «porn». Such a replacement of normal sexual relations occurs partially or even completely. The most common reason for this behavior – ordinary laziness. No need to make efforts to give pleasure to someone who is nearby. No need to strain, spend physical and mental energy. This behavior of men is not uncommon in our time.
How to behave to a woman who found out that her man is watching porn?
People are with different whole. Someone needs purely sexual relations and there are no plans for the future. Someone is trying to build serious relationships. If the partners have confidential and friendly relations, then there can be no taboo in the discussion of topics. In the event of any problem relating to sex, it is worth discussing everything and choosing a common line of behavior.
A woman can and should turn the situation to her benefit:
- The first thing you need to admit to yourself – This is what you are driven by ordinary female jealousy. Jealous to porn actresses – It is stupid and pointless and this must be realized.
- The benefits of the situation are that «porn» can and should be watched together. This is needed, but it must be carried out softly and unobtrusively. Man – This is a creature who does not tolerate a woman next to her who will limit him in something. And this applies not only to sexual issues, but also of all spheres of relationships.
- The benefits of joint viewing – This is more vivid and interesting sex subsequently. After all, a man will probably want to carry out with a woman what he had just seen on the screen! And not for this, you are together?