Treason by agreement or who are cuckolds.
Partner’s infidelity for many people causes a breakdown of relations. But there are those who are betrayal, and even observing her, brings incredible sexual pleasure. On the Internet of such a person is called a doll, and this unusual fetish is a dolling. What are its features and why it excites – we will figure out this article.
The meaning of the word is kukold
In the Middle Ages Cuckold or cuckold They dismissively called her husband who did not know that he raised a child from another man. This offensive term was invented in England, changing the name of the bird – cuckoo, known for laying her eggs in other people’s nests.
Currently, this offensive word has a completely different meaning. Cuckold is a person, most often a man experiencing excitement because a partner has sex with other people. A woman who is cheating is called a sex-water. SEX WIFE – wife for sex), and lover – Bull (translated from English – bull).
There are women (Cuckquean or Kukvin) who are aware of her husband’s betrayal, and not against this, but even actively participate in the choice of a mistress.
What is the peculiarity of the dolling
This practice (or fetish) differs from the usual infidelity in the couple in that the partner knows about the “hike to the left” of the second person, and agree with this. And therefore it falls under the “umbrella” of ethical non -humoriasis.
But dolls cannot be attributed to swingership (voluntary exchange of sexual partners). Here is one of the partners, most often a man, does not participate in sexual contact, but observes it from the side.
Cuckold is not a voyeurist secretly observing the erotic meetings of his wife. As they say, he is the inspirer and the main contemplator of the process, and everything happens only with his consent.
There are different bonding options. The husband may be present personally with the betrayal of his wife, of course, with the consent of the third participant. In other pairs, a sexwathemer sends a photo or video in the course of the development of the plot. But most often the kukold is “satisfied” with the detailed report of the partner about how everything was. And the more detailed the story, the better.
It doesn’t matter how everything is realized, the main thing is that the “left” connection is feasible only by mutual agreement of both partners and, if there is absolute confidence between them. If dates come secretly from the second half, or there is a love of another, it is already dolling, and “pure water” treason.
Why like it?
There are several reasons, which is why a person enjoys the “betrayal” of a partner.
Biological factor
According to some experts, such a preference initially comes from the “theory of competition of spermatozoa”. Naturally, if the conversation is about men.
Studies have shown that during the observation of the change in his partner, Kukold has a special reaction from the point of view of biology. Having enjoyed such a sight, the next sexual intercourse of the man will be longer, energetic. The number of sperm in the ejaculate also increases, and the refraction period decreases.
Rivalry
In some cases, sexual desire and excitement are affected by the fact that someone else may want a partner. This usually works in two directions. Jealousy in sex can greatly motivate. And there are experts who also attribute it to the “competition of spermatozoa”: a jealous need to “overtake the opponents and inseminate the female individual”.
Humiliation
There are people who get sexual pleasure from humiliation. It is enough for some to know about the fact of treason, other dolls need a more intense game, for example, so that a partner and “bull” laugh at him, in every possible way humiliate sexual intercourse in time.
Subordination
Cuckold can also become a subordinate, depending on the rules within the relationship. The fetish of dominance and subordination has many people, and manifests itself in different forms. One of them is doll.
Compius
Cuckold, seeing how a loved one enjoys, meeting with another, also begins to feel happy. The concept of “commercia” refers to ethical non -nmonogamia, so partners are trying to explain their feelings for each other.
Violation of prohibitions
In society, it is important to follow certain traditions. And an example of ideal relationships is monogamy. Therefore, everything that does not fit into the framework is condemned by society. And the commission of something forbidden strongly excites.
Why is this happening? The fact is that not every person needs monogamy. Many even believe that it is a relic of the old times. And some even initially use dolling as an experiment, trying to maintain relationships and make diversity to sexual life.
How to build relationships with puppets
What is worth remembering if you are going to enter into a relationship with a partner who has such a non -standard intimate hobby? Sexologists identify the following advantages.
Physical pleasure
Sexual connection with the “bull”, which was invited and chosen with a partner, is considered something that goes beyond the usual framework in sex. Such experience can be called unusual, and it will add brightness to your relationship. It is worth remembering that these emotions are not always positive.
With the help of dolling, many couples are reanimating their relationship. At the same time, the partners of the cuckolds note more satisfaction after the start of such practices.
Emotional proximity
According to many sexologists that couples practicing such a fetish are very close to each other. Partners openly share their erotic fantasies, without condemning each other, which contributes to rapprochement.
Freedom from conventions
The rules are limited only by those who establish two people in their relations. Cuckolds and their partners are not worried about what they will think about in society. At the same time, everyone has the right to add new conditions, of course, jointly by discussing them with the second participant.
How to start?
In the event that you are offered the role of a “bull”, do not flatter. This is only a sexual connection without any obligation. All that is needed is to relax and have fun. However, there are several nuances that you should know about:
- First of all, not always sensations and emotions from dolling can be pleasant. This applies to each participant of the “triple” – the bull, partner and puppete.
- In such meetings there will definitely not be emotional proximity. If for you “sex without love” is impossible, it is better to refuse.
If you want to become a doll:
It is not necessary to immediately become a “cuckold”. Just talk to your partner about this. She can tell her sexual fantasies about other men, or about sexual relations in the past.
Further more
If you are excited from such conversations, you can proceed to the next level. Look from the side of how a partner flirts with another man, go with the girl to erotic massage. More piquant sensations are needed? A partner can go for a sexual date, and then tell in detail about it.
Full immersion
Ready to get down to business? Do not forget to discuss and set the limits of permissible behavior with the partner. Who will become the main thing in the process? What the kukold is doing – only watches sex or actively participates? When they discussed all the subtleties among themselves, you can go in search of a “bull”.
How to talk with a partner
Everyone has their own fetishes, erotic fantasies or kinks – this is natural and normal. But telling someone else it is not easy for someone else. What if you have a frank conversation about dolling in your pair?
If the partner spoke about this
The story of the second half that such a topic starts it can shock. How to proceed:
Listen and ask
A lot of moral strength is needed to open to another in their non -standard fantasies. Therefore, try calmly and not condemning to listen to a partner. Maybe he will have enough that he was listened to, and the matter will not reach the realization of imagination.
Ask questions. You will receive answers, and a person will understand that you can talk to you without hesitation. Why is it excited from this? Is there a desire to realize the dream truly? How far all this can go and affect the relationship between you?
Think about the situation well
Tell the partner that you need time to learn more about it, to realize your feelings and attitude to the appearance of other people in a couple.
If there is no negative attitude, first look at the thematic porn movie together.
If it’s your initiative
- Breathe deeper. Do not lay special hopes for conversation, think what a partner’s reaction to your words will be.
- Speak as it is. Yes, it is possible that the partner will not want to participate in the implementation of imagination. But if you decide to talk frankly, do it the best as possible. Share why this causes you excitement, explain what this experiment can give. Let the dolls remain a fantasy, an honest conversation will be worthless. You will better learn about each other, expand your intimate limits.
- Honestly answer the questions that will arise with a partner. Find the information in advance to make it easier to explain the topic to the partner.
- Do not hurry. So that everything goes successfully, each of the partners should feel comfortable. Offer to break the action into stages. And promise that you will not put pressure on your loved one or transgress its limits.